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The Kink & Consent combo weekend consists of *2* workshops – one Saturday and one Sunday. You can join one day, or both!

Saturday join us at “Embodied Consent for Queers” – using the Wheel of Consent as a framework to upskill your consent negotiations; your ability to feel your desires, limits and boundaries in your body; and step out of your people pleasing habits.

Sunday join us at “Kink for Beginners”. You’ll get to explore taking power and surrendering in an approachable, playful, and deliciously s*xy way.

View the full workshop descriptions for Saturday and Sunday below.

❧ This weekend is not residential. If you’re not from Amsterdam, there are numerous hotels and hostels in the area around the venue.
❧ Where: Amsterdam North (address on registration)
❧ Time: 10:30-18:30 both days

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~~~SATURDAY: EMBODIED CONSENT FOR QUEERS~~~

When’s the last time you felt a F*ck Yes to something? How did it feel in your body? Often we settle for less than a Full Yes – especially in s*x – going along with something we don’t love, in order to stay safe. But what if you could feel safe and still get the thing you really want? The best way to get what you want? You have to ask!

In this workshop we, Jason and Sinsia, will offer exercises that explore exactly these themes. As our work is grounded in the Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin, the day will be highly experiential, gently paced and designed to help you make choices that work best for you.

There are many things that can get in the way of asking for what we want: maybe you don’t really know what it is you want. Maybe you do notice desires and limits as they come up, but you feel like they don’t matter that much. Maybe instead of asking for what you really want, you ask for what you think you should want. Or what you think you can get.

Many of us have been taught to prioritise other peoples’ wants and needs over our own. As recovering people pleasers we can lose touch with what brings us satisfaction, leading to frustration, resentment and discontent. This might show up in our intimate lives, work, family, and other relationships.

How do you reconnect with your felt sense of what you want – coming not from your mind (and all its tricks), but from the deep wisdom of your body?

In this workshop we’ll help you get a felt sense of your Yes, your No, and your Maybe. How does it feel inside you when something is a Yes or a No? What comes up when you try to communicate that to another? How does it feel to receive a Yes or a No, and what meaning do you make of it?

This workshop will help you say No to things you don’t want, so that you can say a FULL YES to the things you do really want – that will bring you pleasure, joy, connection, and satisfaction.

❧ This event is for you if…

❤️ You want to connect with an embodied sense of your desires and limits
❤️ You want to have more fulfilling intimate encounters, grounded in embodied consent
🧡 You want to develop better communication skills around your desires and limits, in your intimate life and in other areas of your life

❧ What Will We Explore in this Workshop?

💛 Connecting with your inner, embodied sense of what you want and don’t want – how it feels to be a Yes, No, or Maybe
💚 Different ways of expressing your desires, limits, and boundaries
🩵 Ways to give and receive Yes’es and No’s
💙 Feeling your authentic desire – what do you really want, and where does your mind pull you out of your embodied desire?
💜 How it feels to get exactly the thing you want. How does your body respond when you can explore touch in a way that is safe and grounded in consent?
🖤 This workshop is not about attraction; it is about noticing desires and limits as they come up in the moment. In certain exercises you might ask for touch, and maybe even get it 🙂
🖤 While exploring all this we will keep our clothes on

❧ What are the benefits of building Embodied Consent skills?

🤍 Moving away from black and white yes/no thinking, to finding ease in navigating desires from moment-to-moment
🤍 More pleasure and erotic satisfaction by being able to ask for the things you really want
❤️ Feeling more agency in your s*xual interactions. Rather than simply going along with something you don’t love, being able to negotiate desires back to a Win-Win for both (or all) partners
🧡 More confidence in your erotic and other relationships
💛 Greater sense of ease when connecting with new and old partners
💚 Deeper trust in oneself

❧ Who is this for?

💙 This workshop is particularly welcoming toward queer / LGBTQIA+ folks who fall anywhere under the umbrella of queerness. We welcome all genders, ages, bodies, and orientations. Both teachers identify as queer, and have extensive experience in working with queer people.
💙 Recovering people pleasers: do you feel stuck in having to say Yes to people? Or in going along with things that are not quite as you’d like them?
💜 All levels of experience: we invite anyone to come with a beginner’s mind: what can you learn about yourself and your patterns?

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~~~SUNDAY: KINK FOR BEGINNERS~~~

Curious to try bringing kink into your erotic play? In this workshop, you’ll get to explore taking power and surrendering in an approachable, playful, and deliciously s*xy way.

Kink can be a powerful gateway to pleasure, surrender, deep intimacy, and healing. But many of our mainstream depictions of kink fail to capture the essence of what makes kink so powerful – that the more safety and trust we create with our partners, the further we can explore to the edges of our desires.

While the world of kink is vast, this will be an opportunity for you to explore several popular themes within the kink umbrella. You’ll practice crafting and playing out kink scenes, exploring themes such as:

❧ Sensation play (exploring new/different sensations on the body)
❧ Power dynamics/power exchange (also known as Dominance and Submission)
❧ Ropes and light bondage
❧ Impact play (such as light spanking or using impact tools)

It will be a gentle yet s*xy introduction to kinky ways to play, so you can discover what turns you on and what you want to explore further. We’ll bring all the kinky toys and tools you need to craft delicious kink scenes, while supporting you to build a container of safety so that you can fully enjoy your experience.

You’ll practice communicating your desires, limits and boundaries with others, noticing what arises in you when you give and receive Yes’s and No’s. You’ll be supported to break free of unconscious patterns of people pleasing or subtly overstepping your and/or other’s boundaries.

With the skills and experiences you gain in this workshop, you’ll have a solid foundation to dive deeper into kinky scenes with new or established partners, knowing you can confidently navigate your own desires, limits, and boundaries, and opening up to new worlds of pleasure and possibility.

⫸ This event is for you if…

❧ You’re new to kink and want to begin exploring with safety and a deep respect for your limits
❧ You’re curious about new aspects of the kink and BDSM umbrellas and want a space to try many different ways of playing
❧ You want to spice up your erotic life by bringing in new energies and practices such as playing with power or new sensations
❧ You want to become more skillful at having difficult conversations around desires, limits and boundaries
❧ You want to embark on your kink journey rooted in a sense of safety and consent, and being able to discuss your curiosities, desires, boundaries and limits
❧ You want to move beyond your mind’s ideas of what you should/shouldn’t want, and start feeling in an embodied way your desires and limits

⫸ What Will We Explore in this Workshop?

❧ Connecting with your inner, embodied sense of what you want and don’t want in a kink scene – how it feels to be a Yes, No, or Maybe
❧ Different ways of expressing your desires, limits, and boundaries
❧ Ways to give and receive Yes’es and No’s
❧ Feeling your authentic desire – what do you really want, and where does your mind pull you out of your embodied desire?
❧ You will get to design and play out mini-scenes based on kinky themes such as sensation play, power dynamics/power exchange, ropes and light bondage, and impact play

Our exercises are containers for you to explore kinky themes based on your authentic desires. We’ll set the parameters and you get to design a scene with your partner based on those themes.

There may be practices where you may choose to take off clothes. Nudity is never required.There may be practices where you get to touch and be touched by your exercise partner(s). All touch in this workshop is optional, and grounded in all participant’s consent.

⫸ What are the benefits of building Embodied Kinky Consent skills?

❧ Deeper trust in oneself and in one’s partner(s)
❧ More pleasure and erotic satisfaction by being able to ask for the things you really want
❧ Feeling more agency in your kinky and s*xual interactions. Rather than simply going along with something you don’t love, being able to negotiate desires back to a Win-Win for both (or all) partners
❧ More confidence in your erotic and other relationships
❧ Greater sense of ease when connecting with new and old partners

⫸ Who is this for?

❧ This workshop is particularly welcoming toward queer / LGBTQIA+ folks who fall anywhere under the umbrella of queerness. We welcome all genders, ages, bodies, and orientations. Both teachers identify as queer, and have extensive experience in working with queer people.
❧ All levels of kink experience: we invite anyone to come with a beginner’s mind: what can you learn about yourself and where can you become more skillful?
❧ You can come to the workshop with your play partner(s) or as an individual

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⫸ What Previous Participants Are Saying:

❧ “Sinsia and Jason provide simple yet really effective exercises which help me navigate my own boundaries. It is so helpful to reflect on what I want and what I am willing to and how that feels in my body. Sinsia and Jason are very supportive and they create a space where I could safely explore together with others.”
❧ “Jason and Sinsia work really well together! They created a safe space quite quickly, and I felt there was space for a lot of different things and experiences to happen. We got to practice feeling our desires and our limits – for example by choosing to participate in practices or not. But they also encouraged us to try out something new or exciting.”